Thursday, April 28, 2011

Shaking Hands !!


Shaking Hands !!


 Men Shaking Hands with none relative woman & girls either Muslims or none Muslims, could be young or old. First, we mean by None-relative women are those women that you can marry one of them...
Shaking hands happening a lot but for me i have prepared the answer to avoid this particularly in my office at work with female visitors or outside anywhere. 

One day, Christian woman from USA with full makeup visited my office and i tried to give hear a feeling that i don't want to extend and shake my hands when she enter and when she leave the office. Suddenly, i refused to shake her hand when she started first and she felt insulted.

During the business meeting, i felt that i put her in critical condition in front of her manager. But for the next month, she visited me again and she has learned the lesson that i will say word "salam" instead of shaking hands.

Next time, i will explain the rule (why it is not permissible to shake hands). The true way is to make the shaking rule known to the female visitors in advance. 

MUHAMMAD (peace be upon him) the prophet of ISLAM, never shook hands with women or girls which are not allow full for him.

You will find some modern men say "it all depends on your intentions" and I have heard someone replied to those with the same methodology, he said "i have a good intention but I'm not going to pray and i don't think i need it now”!! Also he said "i have a good intention but I want to shake her hands and do socializing to get the business deal. It is a prior for me”!!

This is one of the ways the devil makes and sees fair for us to wrongly use it.
 
Someone may ask >> is there any age limit to shake hand of a girl who is small ?
The True Way says: it has nothing to do with the age. In some countries, you may find a girl with 12 or 13 years old and she still look like a kid and behaves like a kid and she has not reached the age of puberty and she did not get her menses yet and she look like a child. In this case, it’s ok to shake hands if there is a necessity and to look at here because she is not a place of desire of men. On other community, you may find a girl of 7 years old but she is in a state that men look at here and may desire her. So in this case it becomes forbidden for you to look at her or to shake hands with her, unless there is a necessity.
    

We don't shake women hands because we respect the woman.
We don't shake women hands because i don't like it from the strangers men to my relative woman (such as my sisters, mothers, uncles, daughter, wives, daughter of my brothers or sisters .. and etc. )
We don't shake women hands to avoid bad intentions from men side.
We don't shake women hands because this is Muslim’s society and Islamic instructions and it is a culture
We don't shake women hands because we are jealous for our families.


Follow the true way to safe our clean communities and not innovate.



FAISAL ALMULLA
ALKABTIN@GMAIL.COM

www.MyTrueWay.com


1 comment:

  1. Dear Faisal, This Blog is really interesting, and I'm hoping to read more from you. Religion is really an interesting topic to discuss but "Respect" should always be there for both parties so that no argument will arise in between. I believed that any religious discussion should be only sharing of thoughts and ideas of the culture and traditions for both so that both parties will benefit with the knowledge of what had been discussed, I'll share my thoughts and ideas later.

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